Sunday, September 15, 2013

Why I am not a Vegan Anymore

After 5 weeks of the Vegan lifestyle ... I am no longer a Vegan.

Why?  After all I have read about the health benefits!  After all I have read about what is in our food! After all I have read about the treatment of animals and the treatment of workers in the slaughterhouses!

I know!  [insert forehead slap here]

There are two reasons why I have gone back the basic American diet:

  • Husband and I have very few hobbies that we enjoy together.  I love Star Wars - he doesn't understand why "vehicles fly in space and guys swirl around laser swords".  
    • One thing we have always enjoyed together is food, eating out, cooking a great meal at home - part of our relationship - a very strong part of our bond revolves around food - the breaking of bread at our table.  By being a Vegan - I took myself out of that part of our life we enjoy. 
    •  He was very supportive of my choices and in no way influenced my current decision.  Basically, I missed that part of us.  Our restaurant choices were limited ... I got tired of ending up at a salad joint and felt guilty for "making him eat rabbit food once again".  He does enjoy veggies but not as his only food.  
    • I wanted our food life to be simple and to be a couple making those food decisions.
  • I started focusing on my weight.  During that time as a Vegan I lost a bit of weight [nice] - bought some new clothes [very nice] BUT also became focused on losing weight and started calling foods either "good" or "bad". [This food is from nature it's good - this food has preservatives in it - it's bad]  
    • I stopped being perfectly happy with the body I had and started focusing on what I thought was wrong - well "hello" eating disorder from my past...haven't seen you in several years.  
    • I could tell my days revolved around eating just the right "good" thing - I stopped being happy.
    • It has taken me many turns around the sun to be happy with the body God gave me - I refuse for my own mental/physical health to start calling food "good" or "bad" or start focusing on my weight again.

I am not sure what to do about the guilt I feel about the animals.  But I am talking to God about this whole thing because I really don't know what else to do.  I think I will keep the blog - I have renamed it to "Just Living This Life" 

Peace.

~K


5 comments:

  1. Kelly, I certainly understand much of your reasoning. Fin and I have many of the same complications about our diet. On my own, I will eat meat once or twice a week. He would eat filet mignon every night. I've been gluten/wheat free for over a year. The other thing he would eat every night is spaghetti. On pasta nights, I cook two pastas. As for the meat, the best I can do (and it's pretty difficult in the wilds of Mississippi) is to look for meat that is certified humane, I try to buy eggs from local farmers and overall just do the best I can to source animal products from sources that make an effort to treat their animals well. When I can't do that I just take a deep breath and buy what we need. Good luck continuing to find the balance that is great for both of you.

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    1. Bethany, thank you for your comment. It's finding a balance - I like that point you have made.

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  2. I, too, like the way Bethany put it - it's about balance. We still can make conscious eating choices, be aware of what we put in our mouths and how it affects the planet overall. I'm sort of a "part-time" vegetarian. It's easy for me to not eat beef and pork, and to eat only poultry and fish occasionally. But when I come across some good German bratwurst (made of pork), I'll eat it for the childhood memories. My choice. And if I have salmon, I stay away from the Chinese, farm-raised ( = chicken poop fed) salmon. My choice.

    You gotta do what's right for you...at the right time for you. :-)

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    1. Pixel, that's a great thought pattern. At this time I am just not ready for an "all or nothing" approach...doing the best I can is where I am at.

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